It may seem obvious to you that a cosmetic procedure will make you look more beautiful and feel better about yourself. Unfortunately, this may not be as clear to your spouse or significant other. A husband may disapprove of a plastic surgery procedure for many reasons: cost, health risks, or even insecurities. While a woman should not let her husband stop her from getting a cosmetic procedure, especially if there a feature that is truly bothering her, it is best to make an attempt at gaining support before going under the knife. Effectively communicating the details and benefits of the procedure can be all that is needed to sway your husband’s opinion in your favor.
Dr. Vitenas’ tips on “the cosmetic surgery conversation”:
1.Take time to reach out to your husband in a calm and loving manner. Do not sit down with him when you are angry or rushed.
2. Pick a time to have the conversation when your husband will not feel limited on his time.
3.Remember, if your spouse is in a relaxed and receptive mood he is increasingly likely to listen to your wants and needs.
4. Men are more responsive to facts than feelings. Know the details before setting your husband down to talk.
5. Prepare yourself. Have pictures, brochures, and booklets available on hand, for your husband to look through.
6. Listen to his side of the argument. Your husband may have important concerns or questions you haven’t thought of, so give him a chance to speak.
7. If money is a concern, be sure to have the figures and cost information available. You can even have the financing for your procedure pre-approved, before you chat with your spouse.
8.If he is completely against the procedure during your first conversation, give him some time to think before you approach the subject again – but don’t let him discourage your cosmetic goals.
9.Invite your husband to come with you to visit your cosmetic surgeon; this will make him feel a part of the overall process.
10.Most importantly, keep him reassured of how much he is loved and appreciated. Fears of inadequacy, jealousy, and abandonment are often easily smoothed out with a little encouragement.